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One questionnaire for every moment: an example from each template

Ten templates, ten situations where two people need to agree before they commit. A real question from each, the expectation to set on it, and what the score tells you.

Sep 10, 2026 · 9 min read

Every template is the same mechanic pointed at a different moment: you answer, they answer, you both see a percentage. What changes is which questions are worth asking and what you should expect back. Here is one example from each of the ten templates, with the expectation we would set and what a low score usually means.

1. For Pre-Date Free

The moment: you've matched, chatted for a week, and the first date is Friday.

Example question: "What are you looking for right now?" — Casual dating · Something serious · Not sure yet, open to see · Marriage-minded

Expectation: Similar Only. "Something serious" and "Marriage-minded" are neighbours; "Casual" and "Marriage-minded" are not. A low score here isn't about chemistry, it's about timing, and it's better found out before you've booked the restaurant.

2. Long-Term Values Premium

The moment: you're a year in and the conversation is turning to moving in, or more.

Example question: "How should money be handled once you live together?" — Fully joint · Joint for shared costs, separate otherwise · Fully separate

Expectation: Specific. This is a rules question, and different rules generate an argument at every bill. The category breakdown matters more than the headline here — Finances at 60% with everything else at 95% is one conversation, not a mismatch.

3. For New Friends Free

The moment: new city, new job, someone you liked at a class and want to see again.

Example question: "A friend cancels plans last-minute — how do you feel?" — Totally fine, life happens · A little annoyed but understanding · Really bothers me

Expectation: Accept Any, honestly — but read the answer. A "really bothers me" paired with your own "life happens" isn't a dealbreaker; it's a note to text when you're running late. The friendship template is the shortest we ship because overlap on three or four things is enough.

4. Same Interest Group Free

The moment: you're forming a running club, a book group, a weekly five-a-side, and want the people who will still turn up in month three.

Example question: "How competitive are you about trail running?" — scale from Just for fun to Very competitive (the hobby name is filled in once and written into every question)

Expectation: Similar Only. Groups fall apart when the "just for fun" people and the "very competitive" people are in the same one. Send the link to everyone; the scores tell you who belongs in the same group, not who to leave out.

5. Cause & Volunteer Free

The moment: matching volunteers to a mission before the first shift, so nobody signs up for something they'll resent by week two.

Example question: "How much time can you give each month?" — A few hours · A regular weekly slot · Several days · Whatever is needed, short-term

Expectation: Specific on the commitment you actually need. A high score means the person's version of "helping" matches the role; a low one usually means they'd be happier on a different project, not that they're less committed.

6. For Co-Founder Premium

The moment: two people are excited about an idea and about to split equity on a handshake.

Example question: "How should equity be split?" — Equal, no exceptions · Weighted by time committed · Weighted by capital · Vested over time

Expectation: Not This on whichever option you could never accept. Co-founder splits fail on the one answer someone finds unfair, not on the average. Twenty-two questions, most of them about money, and this one is the one that ends partnerships.

7. For Roommates Free

The moment: the flat is great, the rent works, and you're about to sign a year with someone you've met twice.

Example question: "Overnight guests or partners staying over?" — Rarely, with a heads-up · A few nights a week is fine · Whenever, no need to ask · I'd rather not share the flat with a third person

Expectation: Similar Only. Cleanliness and noise get the attention, but guests are what people actually fight about, because nobody sets the rule until it's already been broken.

8. Wedding Party Premium

The moment: you're choosing eight people for a year of events, costs and one speech.

Example question: "Public speaking at the reception?" — Love it · Fine if it is short · Only if I must · Please no

Expectation: Accept Any — you're not disqualifying anyone. Send one link to all eight and use the scores to hand out roles: the "love it" answers give the toasts, the "please no" answers run the logistics. It's the template where the breakdown is the product and the percentage is almost incidental.

9. Hiring Fit Business

The moment: the candidate passed the interviews; the panel is now guessing at culture fit in the last ten minutes.

Example question: "How do you prefer to receive critical feedback?" — Direct and in the moment · In private, soon after · Written, so I can reflect · In a scheduled review

Expectation: your team's baseline. On Business plans the team answers once and every candidate is compared to that, not to one manager. The panel sees "Feedback style 91%, Meetings 48%" and never sees which option the candidate picked — which is what makes it usable in a debrief.

10. Team Onboarding Business

The moment: the new hire starts Monday, and the norms nobody wrote down are about to be learned the hard way.

Example question: "How quickly do you expect a reply to a chat message?" — Within minutes · Within the hour · Same day · Whenever is fine

Expectation: Similar Only to the team's answer. A mismatch here isn't a hiring mistake; it's the single most useful thing to say out loud in the first one-to-one. That's the point of the template: surface it in week one instead of quarter two.

What they have in common

Browse them all on the Templates page — the free ones cover the most common moments, and every one can be edited before you send it.

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